What does the word ‘homework’ mean to you? I’m sure it means something quite different to your child.
But seriously, what does it mean to you? I’ve heard some parents say, “here we go again,”, “why do I have to spend my time helping my child with homework when he should be learning this stuff in school,”, and “it’s good for him, it helps develop discipline,”.
Regardless of what you think, it’s part of the education system that is often unavoidable (that is, if you want to avoid it). At Tutorgiant, we believe that sometimes homework is quite beneficial, and for many kids, it’s rather necessary. Yes, sometimes homework can be just ‘work’ to keep kids busy, but we believe that in the United States, most (if not all) teachers realize this and are giving homework that reinforces what’s been taught in the classroom.
Now, how do you go about tackling homework when it’s a problem? Well, let’s face it. If your kid is motivated, then homework won’t be a problem. On the other hand, if your child would rather play sports or video games (which I think in moderation has its benefits) rather than do homework, you’ve got a problem.
Of course we’ve all heard about making contracts with your kids. I know several parents who swear by it while others said it doesn’t work. Fair enough, what works for some may not work for others. So what does work for the unmotivated kid?
I’m going to shock you by saying this (and I know that I’ll get quite a bit of backlash for this one)…here it goes…
BRIBE THEM
That’s it. I can hear the e-mails coming in. Okay, before some of you tell me that I know nothing about psychology (wait a minute…I have my B.A. in motivational psychology and my Master’s Degree in Learning Theory) let’s look at this more clearly.
I remember having a discussion with my cousin about how children shouldn’t be bribed…”they should want to achieve goals for their intrinsic value”…”what kind of society are we going to have if everyone only did things for rewards” she pointed out.
While I respect what she said, and agree to some extent…it doesn’t work that way. Without going into human evolution and Pavlovian Conditioning, I’ll make sense of it in simpler terms.
Why do you go to work?
Think about it. Okay, some people may say that they love what they do, and I believe them. But think about this…perhaps your child doesn’t love what he/she does! (that is…go to school). You have had a choice, he/she hasn’t.
If you won the lottery, would you still do what you do for a living? Honestly, I’m sure there are many people who wouldn’t. Why? You know the answer.
Finally, why do most people go to work? Does everyone love what they do? I doubt it! They go to get the reward, the positive reinforcer, the paycheck. (Or some would say that they go to work because they avoid the “punishment” of not getting a paycheck).
Well, why can’t your child, who may not like his/her work, get motivated to get a ‘paycheck’. I’m referring to a toy, a trip, a new game (I’m obviously referring to a tangible reward that is appropriate for your child). I’ve seen this and I’ve seen it a lot! Meaningful rewards that are in reach of your child’s abilities will not spoil your child nor will they create a lack of responsibility.
On the contrary, your child will see that hard work pays off!!!!
If a kid isn’t intrinsically motivated, then why not motivate him/her extrinsically? I was generally intrinsically motivated in school. I remember going through a tough time in early high school. My parents offered me ‘items of my choice’ if I got higher grades. I remember working my tail off! It worked. It also gave me the confidence to do well later on in high school.
Think about it. I hope it works for you.
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